Monday, September 10, 2012

Tot Talk: I Don't Want To Go To School

When I was young, I didn't like going to school. It was so hard for me to leave my mom, so I know how children feel. Looking back I think most of my problem was fear. Being a Preschool Teacher I had to deal with a lot with children's worries and school refusals. Kids not wanting to go to school is quite  common for 3-6 years old, awe lets face it, even older kids have this problem although they don't scream and cry in front of everyone. Sometimes school isn't fun!
Here is a list of standard symptoms that children may have when they don't want to go to school..,
Nausea, headache, dizziness, stomachaches, joint pain and crying..,
 lots of crying, so much that most of the above feelings are brought on by all that crying. Don't make matters worse on that first day that your child starts to show extreme symptoms of not wanting to go to school. if your child is having any of the above symptoms take your child home. Ask your teacher and your child what triggered the behaviour. If you notice that as soon as your child gets home and he/she is playing happily and suddenly feels a whole lot better chances are your child is fine, but would rather be with you.

This is way more fun than going to school.. am I right?

As a experienced preschool teacher I have always had the Three Day Rule. Follow the 3 steps below and on the 3rd day of these rules.., your child hopefully will be happy to go to school.
  • 1. Prep Your Child.., You're going to school. Lay in bed with your toddler and talk about the great things that happen in school, tell your child that Mommy & Daddy want him/her to be as smart as them and tell them that all children and even some grown-ups have to go to school. 
  • 2. I Love You..., Let your child know how much you love them. Reassure your child by telling them what you will be doing while they are at school. (Make sure it isn't something they like to do and make sure that if your child doesn't end up staying at school.. YOU must follow through with what you had said you were going to do.) Don't make the day a day-of-fun. 
  • 3. Mom's.., Drop and GO! Believe me., most MOMMIES cause the anxiety. Wait in your car for no longer than 5 minutes. The more positive you are saying your good-byes and the quicker you get out of there, the better off it is for your child. Most important: Have your teacher call your cell to let you know if your child has settled in. I never let this go past 5 minutes. Chance are good, that your child will have settled in, because most of the stress for the child is letting go of you. Never leave the school grounds until you have the comfort of knowing that your child is happier. 
These steps only take three days. Make sure you teacher is aware of what you are going to be doing and that the Teacher will help you out. Your child needs the comfort and reassurance from the teacher and friends in the class.  If your child is showing way more distress than a tummy ache and their stress is continuing after the 3 days, please seek your paediatrician.  Be sure that there isn't a physical condition causing the symptoms.  Lets hope that in 3 days your child will be as happy as the child above.  Can you send me a photo of your child's first day a school?  I'd love to see it!
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